A very attractive woman with a partner trivial, or a handsome man with a scruffy partner. How often do you see mismatched couples, yet foolproof. But what unites the "best" of the couple to the "worst"? The illusion. According to recent research published in Psychological Science, people tend to overestimate their partners, to three years from the wedding are more satisfied with the "realists." Researchers at the University of Buffalo have recruited 222 married couples, which was asked to complete questionnaires about themselves, the partners and marriage, every six months to three years.
Then they compared the respondents' self assessments on intelligence, creativity and athletic ability, with those of their spouse. Those who tended to emphasize the positive qualities of the partner, were the same ones who reported being happily married. "People are very adept at changing their ideas, to match the image you want to have themselves or others," says the author of the study, Sandra Murray.
"It may decide that the partner is perfect for them, even in the face of reality." In this way, would be able to protect themselves from the disappointments of everyday life. "See the companion as the reflection of your ideal relationship also protects from the corrosive effects of time.
Maintain a positive perception of the partner can be satisfied over the long term, "he says. And at the same time, you can feed a self-confident little fellow. 
Then they compared the respondents' self assessments on intelligence, creativity and athletic ability, with those of their spouse. Those who tended to emphasize the positive qualities of the partner, were the same ones who reported being happily married. "People are very adept at changing their ideas, to match the image you want to have themselves or others," says the author of the study, Sandra Murray.
"It may decide that the partner is perfect for them, even in the face of reality." In this way, would be able to protect themselves from the disappointments of everyday life. "See the companion as the reflection of your ideal relationship also protects from the corrosive effects of time.
Maintain a positive perception of the partner can be satisfied over the long term, "he says. And at the same time, you can feed a self-confident little fellow.
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