In a time when divorce is easier than finding a soul mate, you try to dissect the mechanisms that ensure long-lasting and happy marriages. Having established that marriage is good for the health of the couple, now experts have tried to steal the secret of the perfect wedding. Why some couples are indestructible by time, by external contingencies, problems that arise? Well, the secret is the idealization partner, not to see its faults, but only the idealization of him.
You are not very convinced? Beyond the love of fellowship and torque, apply the so-called blinders against the indisputable reality. And it's not surprising to learn that it was a woman to want to investigate why some marriages are destined to make history, while others do not exceed even the first shocks.
Sandra Murray, University of Buffalo is the author of a study published in Psychological Science that analysis took into 193 married couples, since they were married and then at intervals of six months during the first three years of cohabitation. The researcher asked for volunteers who had trial of its better half, thus revealing that subjects who at the beginning of the virtues of the idealized marriage partner, had a couple's life more fulfilling and happy rather than the more realistic, in fact, noted all the negative aspects.
If perfect marriage and family are the dreams of women, the council before dreaming is to learn to idealize! "People are very good at changing their definitions to match how they want to see themselves or how they want to see the other," says Murray. When the couples studied were found to describe their partner, they noticed only the positive, outlining a model for this ideal person who would like next.
Rather than look at the real person, you idealize some features to enhance and live happily. Because the researchers asked volunteers to describe only with adjectives - positive or negative - to its partner, the suspect that the shame of her husband labeled as immature, distant or distracted, and his wife as moody, selfish and hyper critical, they all have favorite pieces huge praise.
And farewell to reality! Now in addition to the chemical formula of love, there is also an equation for the perfect wedding, where love is void if not accompanied by a bit of healthy idealism. 
You are not very convinced? Beyond the love of fellowship and torque, apply the so-called blinders against the indisputable reality. And it's not surprising to learn that it was a woman to want to investigate why some marriages are destined to make history, while others do not exceed even the first shocks.
Sandra Murray, University of Buffalo is the author of a study published in Psychological Science that analysis took into 193 married couples, since they were married and then at intervals of six months during the first three years of cohabitation. The researcher asked for volunteers who had trial of its better half, thus revealing that subjects who at the beginning of the virtues of the idealized marriage partner, had a couple's life more fulfilling and happy rather than the more realistic, in fact, noted all the negative aspects.
If perfect marriage and family are the dreams of women, the council before dreaming is to learn to idealize! "People are very good at changing their definitions to match how they want to see themselves or how they want to see the other," says Murray. When the couples studied were found to describe their partner, they noticed only the positive, outlining a model for this ideal person who would like next.
Rather than look at the real person, you idealize some features to enhance and live happily. Because the researchers asked volunteers to describe only with adjectives - positive or negative - to its partner, the suspect that the shame of her husband labeled as immature, distant or distracted, and his wife as moody, selfish and hyper critical, they all have favorite pieces huge praise.
And farewell to reality! Now in addition to the chemical formula of love, there is also an equation for the perfect wedding, where love is void if not accompanied by a bit of healthy idealism.
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